I Have ADHD and I’m Thriving: What Changed for Me
I’ll never forget the day I got my ADHD diagnosis.
I was already teaching special education. I had a PhD. I’d spent years supporting students with ADHD, watching them struggle with the same things I struggled with my entire life.
And somehow, I never connected the dots about myself.
But looking back now, the signs were everywhere.
The constant anxiety that I was forgetting something important. The piles of papers on every surface because I couldn’t figure out where things should go. The irritability when anyone interrupted my hyperfocus or when I was already overwhelmed.
My family was bearing the brunt of it. I’d snap at my kids over small things because my nervous system was already maxed out. I’d forget important dates and feel terrible about it. I couldn’t be present during family time because my mind was racing through the 47 things I hadn’t done yet.
My career was suffering too. I was a good teacher—I loved my students—but the administrative side was drowning me. Missing deadlines. Losing important paperwork. Staying late every single day trying to catch up, but somehow always behind.
My relationships were strained. Friends would invite me to things and I’d forget to respond. Or I’d say yes and then completely forget. I was always canceling plans because I was too overwhelmed or too exhausted from masking all day.
I was really struggling. And I was struggling alone, because I was too ashamed to admit it.
Then came the diagnosis.
It was both devastating and liberating. Devastating because suddenly all those years of thinking “Why can’t I just get it together?” made sense—there was actually something different about my brain. Liberating because I finally understood—I wasn’t broken, lazy, or incompetent. My brain just worked differently.
But understanding I had ADHD didn’t automatically fix anything. I still had papers to grade, IEP meetings to attend, a household to manage, relationships to repair, and a business I wanted to launch. The diagnosis was just the beginning.
The real work was learning to live with my ADHD brain instead of fighting it.
Here’s what actually changed my life:
1. I Stopped Fighting My Brain
For years, I tried every productivity system designed for neurotypical brains. Color-coded planners. Morning routines that started at 5am. “Eat the frog” strategies. Minimalist to-do lists.
None of it worked.
You know why? Because I was trying to force my ADHD brain to function like a non-ADHD brain. It’s like trying to make a Mac run Windows software—technically possible, but exhausting and inefficient.
What changed: I started building systems that worked WITH my brain, not against it.
- I use timers obsessively because time blindness is real
- I keep everything visible because “out of sight, out of mind” is my default
- I schedule hard tasks during my peak energy hours (9-11am for me)
- I use body-doubling (working alongside someone) when I need accountability
I stopped apologizing for needing accommodations. My brain needs what it needs.
2. I Embraced External Systems
My working memory is terrible. I can’t “just remember” things. I used to feel so much shame about this—like I was incompetent or careless.
Now? I’ve accepted that my brain isn’t a reliable filing system. So I built external ones.
What changed: I externalized everything.
- Every single task goes in my phone immediately (not “I’ll add it later”)
- I set alarms for everything—taking out trash, calling parents back, even drinking water
- I use visual reminders: sticky notes, whiteboards, labels on everything
- I keep duplicates of things I lose constantly (phone chargers everywhere)
Is this “extra”? Maybe. Does it work? Absolutely.
3. I Got Honest About My Limits
I used to say yes to everything. Every committee, every extra project, every favor. Because I felt like I had to prove I was capable despite my ADHD.
The result? I was burned out, behind on everything, and feeling like a failure.
What changed: I started protecting my capacity.
- I limit my “high focus” tasks to 2-3 per day
- I build in buffer time between everything
- I say no without guilt (well, with less guilt)
- I accept that I can’t do everything—and that’s okay
I realized that working twice as hard to appear “normal” was making me miserable. So I stopped.
4. I Found My People
The ADHD community changed everything for me. Finally, people who understood why I had 47 browser tabs open, why I couldn’t “just start” the thing I needed to do, why I could hyperfocus for 6 hours on the wrong task.
What changed: I stopped isolating.
- I joined ADHD coaching groups
- I connected with other educators who have ADHD
- I started talking openly about my ADHD instead of hiding it
- I built relationships with people who got it
Turns out, I wasn’t lazy, unmotivated, or broken. I was just trying to navigate a world not designed for my brain—and doing it alone.
5. I Treated My ADHD Like the Medical Condition It Is
This one’s important: ADHD isn’t a character flaw or a discipline problem. It’s a neurological condition that affects executive function, dopamine regulation, and impulse control.
What changed: I approached it like any other medical condition.
- I take medication and I’m not ashamed of it
- I work with professionals who specialize in ADHD
- I track what helps and what doesn’t
- I give myself grace on hard days
Would we tell a diabetic to “just try harder” to regulate their blood sugar? No. So why do we expect people with ADHD to magically develop executive function through willpower alone?
What “Thriving” Actually Looks Like
Here’s the thing: I still have ADHD. I still struggle sometimes.
I still forget things. I still procrastinate on tasks I don’t want to do. I still get overwhelmed when there’s too much on my plate.
But now?
- I have systems that catch me when I drop balls
- I know my patterns and plan around them
- I don’t waste energy feeling ashamed
- I can help others because I’ve lived it
Thriving doesn’t mean your ADHD goes away. It means you build a life that works for your brain, not against it.
Why I Started Clarity Co Atlanta
This journey—from struggling in silence to understanding my ADHD to building a life that actually works—is why I founded Clarity Co Atlanta.
I’m a special education teacher with ADHD. I have a PhD in Special Education. I’m certified as an ADHD coach. I’ve spent over a decade working with students who have executive function challenges.
But what really qualifies me? I’ve lived it.
I know what it’s like to be smart but struggle with “simple” tasks. To have big goals but get stuck before you even start. To feel like everyone else got a manual for life that you didn’t receive.
And I know what it’s like to finally figure out systems that work.
If you’re reading this and thinking “This is me”—you’re not alone.
You’re not lazy. You’re not unmotivated. You’re not broken.
Your brain just works differently. And once you stop fighting that and start working WITH it? Everything changes.
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Whether you’re a student struggling with school, an adult trying to manage work and life, or a parent navigating ADHD with your child—I’m here to help.
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